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Letting Others Down: Living with Lupus

I'm overly conscientious. Some might think this is a good trait, particularly when they happen to be on the receiving end of my hyper-conscientiousness. I will always arrive on time (or early and sit in my car and wait until the appointed time), deliver whatever it is I promised you, return your calls, and you can count on me always to do what I tell you I'm going to do. Sounds great, right?

Here's the flip side: If I'm not careful, Miss Conscientious's evil stepsisters-Inflexibility and Guilt- sneak into the picture. I do try to remain relatively flexible in life and not hold others to my own high standards, but I struggle with guilt. Over the years, I've learned that my lupus has a bit of a twisted sense of humor. First, she lets me commit to things, knowing just how conscientious I am. Then, when the day or appointed time comes to follow through on whatever is planned, she steps in with her wicked little laugh and says, "Not so fast, Miss Cindy. I think today will be a pajamas-all-day day." And out the window my plans fly, hitting Guilt as she makes her way in when I have to call people and tell them that I won't be able to do what I promised.

I realize this isn't rational. In my head, I know that people understand when I am sick and can't show up, just as I understand when the same thing happens to them. But I don't like it. No matter how much I try to sugarcoat it, letting other people down just feels crummy to me. This unpredictability is one of the things that make living with chronic illness so challenging. And it is compounded by the fact that the disease is invisible, because often on the outside we look fine and like we should be able to do what we promised.

This presents a huge dilemma. Do I regret invitations and not accept responsibilities because I might not feel up to them when the day arrives, or do I accept and then cancel if I don't feel well? I am sure there are millions of others struggling with this decision as I write. It is especially important because if we start to regret everything, we can become lonely and negative things start to snowball. That's when I begin to feel that lupus has Cindy, not that Cindy has lupus. And, for me, I refuse to let this happen. I refuse to let lupus run (or ruin!) my life.

So, here's what I've decided: I plan to keep being actively engaged in life, especially with people who know and love me. I'll make the plans, I'll accept the responsibilities and will do my very best to do what I promise. But, and this is a big but, my health does come first. If a pajamas-all-day day happens to hit on a day I have plans, I might have to reschedule. And you know what I've learned? Life does go on without me (hard lesson to my conscientious little soul) and it is a whole lot more fun being with me when I feel well. I'm leaving Guilt behind and bringing Smile and Humor to the party!

About Cindy Coney: Ambassador of hope and author of The Wild Woman's Guide to Living with Chronic Illness, Cindy Coney is a nationally acclaimed speaker, trainer, human resilience expert, and philanthropic force. Dedicated to helping both children and adults achieve optimal health and success, Cindy has taught thousands of people to move beyond coping with limitations to recapturing joy and fulfillment in their lives.

Diagnosed with lupus in 1980, Cindy has since driven a race car 124 miles per hour; completed the Chicago Marathon; championed countless nonprofit organizations; presented to the World Lupus Congress as a keynote speaker; and shared her inspiring, empowering story from Belize to Baltimore.

Follow Cindy's Blog at www.cindyconey.com

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Meet Our New Pain Management Providers: Cherie Advants and Carly Sullivan

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Understanding Minimally Invasive Spine Procedures for Chronic Back Pain

Chronic back pain can affect nearly every part of your daily routine. Activities that once felt simple, such as walking through the grocery store, sitting at work, exercising, traveling, or spending time with family, may become more difficult when pain continues over time. For many patients, the first steps toward managing spine pain include conservative treatments such as physical therapy, medications, activity modifications, or injections. While these approaches may provide relief for some individuals, others continue to experience symptoms that interfere with their comfort, mobility, and quality of life. Advances in spine care have created additional options for patients who need more targeted treatment. Minimally invasive spine (MIS) procedures are designed to address specific sources of spine-related pain using specialized techniques that focus on the affected area while limiting disruption to surrounding tissues. At Carolinas Pain Institute, our providers take a personalized approach to spine care. Before recommending any treatment, our team works to understand the source of your pain, evaluate your symptoms, and determine which options may be appropriate based on your condition and overall health. If chronic back pain continues despite conservative treatment, learning more about minimally invasive spine procedures may help you better understand your available options. What Are Minimally Invasive Spine (MIS) Procedures? Minimally invasive spine procedures are advanced treatment techniques designed to address certain spinal conditions through targeted approaches rather than traditional open surgical methods. The goal of minimally invasive spine treatment is precision. Instead of treating a broad area, these procedures focus on the specific structures that may be contributing to pain. Depending on the condition being treated, physicians may use specialized instruments, imaging guidance, and advanced techniques to access the treatment area. A common misconception is that all spine pain requires major surgery. However, many spinal conditions require a careful evaluation to determine the most appropriate treatment approach. For some patients, minimally invasive options may provide a way to address specific sources of pain without the same level of disruption associated with larger surgical procedures. Minimally invasive spine procedures may be considered when: A specific source of pain has been identified Conservative treatments have not provided enough relief Symptoms are affecting daily activities Diagnostic testing supports a targeted treatment approach It is important to understand that minimally invasive spine procedures are not appropriate for everyone. The best treatment plan depends on your diagnosis, symptoms, medical history, and individual goals. How Are Minimally Invasive Spine Procedures Different From Traditional Spine Surgery? Many patients hear the term “spine procedure” and immediately think of major surgery and long recovery periods. However, minimally invasive techniques are designed differently. Traditional spine surgery may require larger incisions and greater access to the spine depending on the condition being treated. Minimally invasive approaches use specialized methods to target specific areas while attempting to limit unnecessary disruption to nearby tissues. A More Targeted Treatment Approach One of the biggest differences with minimally invasive spine procedures is the focus on treating the source of pain. Back pain can come from many different structures, including: Spinal discs Nerves Facet joints Vertebral structures Sacroiliac joints Surrounding soft tissues Because different conditions can create similar symptoms, identifying the actual cause of pain is an important part of treatment planning. A targeted procedure is only considered when the provider understands what structure may be contributing to symptoms and whether that area can be addressed through a minimally invasive approach. Less Disruption to Surrounding Tissues Minimally invasive techniques are designed to reduce unnecessary disruption to surrounding muscles and tissues compared with some traditional approaches. The goal is to focus treatment on the problem area while preserving as much healthy tissue as possible. However, every procedure is different, and your provider will explain the expected benefits, risks, and recovery process based on your specific situation. Individualized Recovery Expectations Recovery after a minimally invasive spine procedure varies from person to person. Factors that may influence recovery include: The type of procedure performed The condition being treated Your overall health How long symptoms have been present Your activity level and rehabilitation plan During a consultation, your provider can explain what you may expect before, during, and after treatment. Who May Benefit From Minimally Invasive Spine Treatment? Minimally invasive spine procedures are not designed as a universal solution for all back pain. They are considered for patients who have specific conditions that may respond to targeted treatment. A comprehensive evaluation helps determine whether MIS treatment may be appropriate. Your provider may consider: Where your pain is located How long symptoms have been present Whether pain travels into the legs or other areas Previous treatments you have tried Imaging or diagnostic findings How pain affects your daily activities Patients who may benefit from evaluation include those experiencing: Chronic lower back pain Nerve-related symptoms such as tingling or numbness Pain caused by spinal narrowing Certain disc-related conditions Joint-related spine pain Persistent symptoms despite conservative care The purpose of a consultation is not simply to recommend a procedure. It is to understand your condition and determine the most appropriate path forward. Conditions That May Be Treated With MIS Procedures Different spinal conditions require different approaches. Minimally invasive procedures may be considered for certain patients with specific diagnoses. Lumbar Spinal Stenosis Lumbar spinal stenosis occurs when the spaces within the lower spine become narrowed. This narrowing may place pressure on nearby nerves and contribute to symptoms affecting the lower back and legs. Patients with lumbar spinal stenosis may experience: Lower back discomfort Leg pain Numbness or tingling Weakness Difficulty standing or walking for extended periods Treatment recommendations depend on the severity of symptoms and the underlying cause. For appropriate patients, minimally invasive approaches may be considered as part of a personalized treatment plan. Vertebrogenic Low Back Pain Some chronic lower back pain originates from structures within the vertebrae, including the endplates located near the spinal discs. This type of pain may be associated with changes inside the spine that contribute to ongoing discomfort. For appropriately selected patients, minimally invasive treatments such as basivertebral nerve ablation may be considered. This procedure targets the basivertebral nerve, which may play a role in transmitting certain types of chronic low back pain signals. A thorough evaluation is necessary to determine whether this treatment option is appropriate. Facet Joint Pain Facet joints are small joints located between the bones of the spine that help provide stability and movement. Over time, these joints may become irritated due to: Arthritis Degenerative changes Previous injuries Repetitive stress Facet joint pain may cause: Localized back pain Stiffness Discomfort with certain movements Pain that worsens with standing or bending When evaluation identifies facet joints as a potential source of pain, targeted treatment options may be discussed. Sacroiliac Joint Pain The sacroiliac (SI) joints connect the lower spine to the pelvis. Problems involving these joints may contribute to pain in the lower back, hips, or buttocks. SI joint-related pain may occur due to: Joint irritation Injury Inflammation Changes in movement patterns Proper diagnosis is important because SI joint pain can sometimes feel similar to other types of lower back pain. Why Diagnosis Is the Most Important Step Before MIS Treatment A successful spine treatment plan begins with understanding what is causing your symptoms. Many spine conditions share similar symptoms. For example, lower back pain with leg discomfort may be caused by nerve irritation, spinal narrowing, disc-related problems, or other conditions. During an evaluation, your provider may review: Your symptoms and pain patterns Medical history Previous treatments Physical examination findings Diagnostic imaging This information helps determine whether minimally invasive spine treatment may be appropriate or whether another approach may better address your condition. The goal is to treat the source of pain rather than simply manage symptoms. What Happens During a Minimally Invasive Spine Consultation? A consultation at Carolinas Pain Institute begins with understanding your experience with pain. Your provider may discuss: When your symptoms started What activities increase or decrease discomfort How pain affects your daily life Treatments you have already tried Your goals for care After reviewing your condition, your provider can explain possible treatment options and answer questions about the benefits, risks, and expected outcomes of each approach. 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Some minimally invasive spine procedures may be considered surgical interventions, while others are advanced interventional treatments. The classification depends on the specific procedure being performed and the condition being treated. During your consultation, your provider will explain the recommended treatment, what the procedure involves, potential benefits and risks, and what you can expect throughout the process. Are minimally invasive spine procedures safer than traditional surgery? Every medical procedure has potential risks and benefits, and the right treatment option depends on your individual condition. Minimally invasive techniques are designed to target specific areas of the spine while limiting disruption to surrounding tissues when appropriate. Whether a minimally invasive procedure is the right choice depends on factors such as your diagnosis, symptoms, medical history, and previous treatments. A thorough evaluation helps determine the most appropriate approach for your care. How long does recovery take after a minimally invasive spine procedure? Recovery time varies depending on the specific procedure, the condition being treated, and each patient's overall health. Some patients may return to normal activities sooner than others, while additional recovery time may be needed depending on the complexity of treatment. Your provider will discuss expected recovery timelines, activity recommendations, and any follow-up care needed before your procedure. Can minimally invasive procedures help chronic back pain? For appropriately selected patients, minimally invasive spine procedures may help address certain causes of chronic back pain. The effectiveness of treatment depends on identifying the specific source of pain and determining whether the condition is suitable for a targeted procedure. A comprehensive evaluation is an important first step in understanding your symptoms and exploring available treatment options. What if I have already tried other treatments for my back pain? Many patients begin with conservative treatments such as physical therapy, medications, activity modifications, or injections. If these approaches have not provided enough relief, your provider may discuss additional options based on your diagnosis and individual needs. Minimally invasive spine procedures may be one option to consider when appropriate. A personalized evaluation can help determine whether this type of treatment aligns with your condition and goals. Explore Minimally Invasive Spine Options at Carolinas Pain Institute Living with chronic spine pain can be frustrating, especially when symptoms continue despite your best efforts to find relief. Understanding the source of your pain and learning about available treatment options can help you take the next step toward improved comfort and function. At Carolinas Pain Institute, our team provides personalized evaluations and advanced pain management options for patients experiencing chronic spine conditions. If you are exploring minimally invasive spine procedures, our providers can help you understand whether this approach may be appropriate for your condition. Contact Carolinas Pain Institute today to discuss your symptoms and learn more about available spine treatment options.

Sciatica vs. Herniated Disc: What's the Difference?

Sciatica and herniated discs are two terms often used when discussing lower back pain and nerve-related symptoms, but they are not the same condition. A herniated disc can be one of the causes of sciatica, while sciatica describes the symptoms that occur when the sciatic nerve becomes irritated or compressed. Understanding the difference between sciatica and a herniated disc can help you recognize your symptoms and know when to seek medical guidance. At Carolinas Pain Institute, our team provides personalized evaluation and treatment options for patients experiencing nerve-related pain, including sciatica pain relief and treatment in North Carolina. What Is Sciatica? Sciatica refers to pain that follows the path of the sciatic nerve, the largest nerve in the body. The sciatic nerve begins in the lower spine, travels through the hips and buttocks, and extends down each leg. When this nerve becomes irritated or compressed, it can cause: Sharp or burning pain in the lower back Pain that radiates into one leg Tingling or "pins and needles" Numbness Muscle weakness Pain that worsens when sitting Difficulty standing for extended periods Sciatica is a symptom—not the underlying cause of the problem. What Is a Herniated Disc? The spine contains soft cushions called intervertebral discs that sit between each vertebra. These discs help absorb shock while allowing flexibility and movement. A herniated disc occurs when the soft inner material pushes through a tear in the tougher outer layer. If the disc presses against a nearby spinal nerve, it can lead to inflammation, pain, and neurological symptoms. A herniated disc may develop from: Age-related disc degeneration Heavy lifting with poor body mechanics Repetitive spinal stress Sports injuries Falls or motor vehicle accidents Sudden twisting motions Not every herniated disc causes pain. Some people have herniated discs without any symptoms at all. The Main Difference Between Sciatica and a Herniated Disc Although these terms are often used interchangeably, they describe different things. Sciatica Herniated Disc A symptom A structural spinal condition Caused by sciatic nerve irritation Caused by damage to a spinal disc Produces radiating leg pain May or may not cause symptoms Can result from several different conditions One of the most common causes of sciatica Think of it this way: A herniated disc is a potential cause. Sciatica is one possible result. A herniated disc is not the only condition that can cause sciatica. Other causes include spinal stenosis, degenerative disc disease, bone spurs, piriformis syndrome, or spinal injuries. How Symptoms Differ Common Sciatica Symptoms Sciatica symptoms usually affect only one side of the body and include: Shooting pain down the leg Burning sensation Tingling Numbness Weakness in the foot or leg Pain that worsens while coughing or sneezing The pain often follows a very specific path along the sciatic nerve. Common Herniated Disc Symptoms A herniated disc can produce symptoms depending on its location. Symptoms may include: Localized lower back pain Muscle spasms Stiffness Pain with bending Radiating nerve pain Numbness Weakness Some herniated discs never touch a nerve, meaning they may not cause any noticeable symptoms. How Symptoms Differ Common Sciatica Symptoms Sciatica symptoms usually affect only one side of the body and include: Shooting pain down the leg Burning sensation Tingling Numbness Weakness in the foot or leg Pain that worsens while coughing or sneezing The pain often follows a very specific path along the sciatic nerve. Common Herniated Disc Symptoms A herniated disc can produce symptoms depending on its location. Symptoms may include: Localized lower back pain Muscle spasms Stiffness Pain with bending Radiating nerve pain Numbness Weakness Some herniated discs never touch a nerve, meaning they may not cause any noticeable symptoms. Can Sciatica Be Prevented? While not every case is preventable, healthy habits may reduce your risk. Helpful strategies include: Maintaining a healthy weight Exercising regularly Strengthening core muscles Using proper lifting techniques Avoiding prolonged sitting Practicing good posture Staying physically active throughout the day These habits also support overall spinal health and may lower the risk of developing disc-related problems. Experiencing Sciatica or Nerve Pain? Understanding whether your symptoms are caused by sciatica, a herniated disc, or another spinal condition is an important first step toward finding relief. At Carolinas Pain Institute, our providers evaluate the source of your pain and create personalized treatment plans based on your symptoms, health history, and goals. If you are looking for sciatica pain relief and treatment in North Carolina, contact Carolinas Pain Institute today to schedule an evaluation.